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Is She Still Beautiful with Your Eyes Shut?

Nov 11, 2024

You swear she’s the best thing you’ve ever looked at. She’s definitely your type and she’s hot. I mean you’re lucky to have her. You believe this. You hate for anyone else to try and have her. She’s yours. She’s the face you want to always be sleeping with. She makes you feel like no other woman has. When you’re out hanging with your friends and other girls hit on you or message you on social media you still choose her over the others.

Then she breaks your heart. She leaves you another guy. She had a guy on the side and was seeing him the entire time. Or maybe things died down and she didn’t feel the same way about you. It didn’t work out. So that broke you... yes, you remember she was bad for you. Yes, you did everything most of the time and she didn’t do much, but you love her anyway. You’re still holding on hoping things work. Yeah, she doesn’t want you but you’re going to make it work. Yeah, she treats you like crap but that just how she is … you want her —still. She’s hot and you don’t want anyone else to have sex with her….

If you lost your sight and become blind, and just had her character to see her beauty would she still be as pretty as you remember? Will she still be the same girl your eyes painted her as? What does her character look like? Is she gorgeous? Or is she a complete bitch on the inside?

When you look at her character, is it humbling to the point where your spirit is calmed? Does she serve you, cook for you, meet all your needs as a man? Not just sexual needs? Does she care for you and ensure you're taken care of first? Does she have real beauty? The beauty that outlives physical attraction? When she’s old and no longer has her beautiful appearance, will she be kindhearted and loving? Will she be feminine in her spirit that submits to her man? Would she be a good Mother? Would she take care of you when you’re old?

Could you trust her in a room full of attractive men?

Be mindful of the real reason why you want her back in your life.

Give yourself some respect and slow down enough to know what you really want in a woman and examine yours to see if she even fits that picture. You are a different person now. You are older and wiser now. Your wants may have changed...

Many of us go back to our ex because the comfort of love we felt. The familiarity. The sex. Mostly sex... the doorway of all our other emotions. We become blinded to her flaws. Is she still beautiful to you if you were no longer able to look at her? If she is, then what makes her beautiful? Prove her beauty with character. Would you bet your eyes and lose sight to prove her character is the best out there? Would she still be beautiful to you if you could only see character?

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