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What Do You Attract?

Nov 25, 2024

Be mindful of the people that come and go in your life. 

Be mindful of the people that leave.

Especially those that, stay. 

This is important to note because what you are is what you attract- and keep around.

You repel what you are not. What do I mean by this? The people that leave your close personal life leave only for three reasons, 

1. You are growing. They are not keeping up with the growth you are experiencing. What this could look like in your life is that you are developing great character. Examples? You are becoming more patient, understanding, hardworking, loving, and so forth.

2. They resist change. The people that leave you resist change. That is, they choose to avoid change. They have decided that they would rather enjoy their current state than to move forward with you to grow.

Because growth requires change... and to them, change is painful. They will choose comfort every time. Even if it means to lose something or someone of great benefit to them.

They left because who you are, and who you are becoming, required them to become a better version of themselves to stick around. They saw this as too difficult, and not worth their time. So, they chose to leave.

3. YOU resisted change. The people that left were growing. They were learning, and you weren't. She was getting older and increased in maturity while you decided to still act like a boy. They needed you to grow into what you were meant to be, but you decided it was easier to be stagnant and complacent (see reason 2). 

She was growing and you were not. That is why she left. She needed you to grow into the man she needed you to be... but you did not. 

Most of the time, people leave us because of our failure to grow into something and grow out of something. 

Look back at your situation, and the people who have come and went.

Look at who stayed.

Look at who you wanted to stay...  with you.

Look at those who you wanted to stay...  away from you

Look at those who you wanted to stay... but did not.

In that time of reflection, you are going to see the real reason why things happened the way they did.

When you do this, you're going to really see who is to blame, and who isn't... and most of the time... the fault usually falls in our failure to stop and see where we needed improvement.

Remember... who you currently are is what you will attract.

What you are NOT... you will repel away from you.

 

Notice the new people that come into your life.

Notice their habits, the way they think, what they believe, and their character... because most likely,

... they are a reflection of you... 

... or what you will soon... grow into.

Simply put... they are what you attracted. 

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